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Overcoming motivational withdrawal

You are not only responsible for what you’re doing, but also for what you’re not doing – Lao Tzu

It’s not your fault or maybe it is.  You are suffering from motivational withdrawal. You have withdrawn from fully engaging in the life you have.

Go ahead, I’ll wait for your rebuttal. Take all the time you need.  Send me an e-mail, tell me why I am wrong and full of it.

I’m sure you will make some good points and defend yourself.  I know I would. Here’s the thing, I’m still calling bullshit.

I’ve told myself the same story many [...]

Protecting your most valuable resource

We cannot compartmentalize our lives into neat little time slots. Separation is impossible!

We are a whole human being.

We have a body.

We have a mind.

We have emotions.

They are not separate, they are ONE!

We need to seek something more loftier…a fully integrated life.

When Anne and I were going through pre-cana classes prior to getting married 17 years ago, Deacon Bill gave us some of the best advice I’ve ever received.

His advice may seem obvious to you, but I assure you its practice is among the hardest challenges.

Family FunThe advice is simple.

Take care of yourself [...]

Boundless Energy

Energy gives us the fuel to take on more. To stay focused and present in the moment. To transition from one activity to another. To navigate change with greater ease. To be the best we can be.

Our personal and professional satisfaction depends on our ability to manage our energy levels.

Depleted energy levels lead us to act out, seek instant gratification, and make choices that do not support who we are or who we want to be.

When properly maintained, our bodies are efficient energy producers. They will provide all the energy required to seek personal and professional satisfaction.

5 keys to being a creative enabler

Let’s get this out-of-the-way…you are CREATIVE.   Creativity is not reserved for the budding artists or musicians. It’s an integral part of who we are. The only thing that separates you from someone you view as more creative is a steady practice of using and developing your creative skills. Creative people explore ideas, identify and solve problems, take risks, and expand the scope of what is possible. They are less self-interested and are more willing to engage and take a stronger interest in their own life. Bubbling with creative energy, you are passionately alive. Yet, much of society operates in a command and control […]

Ready or not, learning opportunity awaits

The opportunity we have been waiting for is always present in our lives.  Being aware and knowing when to take advantage of them is at the heart of all life lessons. As a parent of 3 boys (age 7, 6, and 3), I am lucky to be presented learning opportunities everyday.  Part of being a parent is to provide our kids with a safe loving learning environment.  As parents, we are responsible for doing the best we can to nurture and guide our kids through their own life lessons. Truth is, our kids are equally guiding us through our own […]

Awkward Stimulation

As we approach the holiday season, there are more and more parties to attend. I find social gatherings provide awkward stimulation. Do you? People tend to sit in two camps, do I have to go, and let’s get this party started. I find myself teeter totting between the camps. Some events I will not miss for the world. Others, I want to avoid like the plague at the first invite words. What is my resistance costing me? I’ve come to believe that if I am resisting something it is a sure sign I am supposed to be doing it.  My […]

Living on the fringe

I’m perfectly comfortable living on the fringe of society. My life is about being different. I’ve been a square peg in a round hole. My opinions and perspective rarely fit into mainstream dialog. My intuition alerts me to things before there is facts to support them. I see the forest when others only see a tree. I’ve struggled to bridge the gap in conversations. My intentions have been misunderstood. I move at a faster pace than most. My cart is usually before the horse. What rules? Aren’t they all just a framework for action? I am able to help people and […]

Unstoppable community building

Solo warrior is a lifestyle that does not really suit me. I quickly associate thoughts loneliness with this lifestyle. Working by myself. Keeping my life private while spending days without meaningful human interaction.  Living like this doesn’t seem that appealing to me. Yet, if I am honest with myself, I’ve live as a solo warrior from time to time. I found peace and serenity.  I’ve gotten lost in my own self-reflection and activity. I checked out of community and checked into me. I’d pass my time by reading a good book or writing. I’d go on adventures by myself with […]

Disposable stories

Letting go of the stories we tell ourselves requires courage and commitment. A unstoppable willingness to move past the stories that do not serve us. To let go, we can’t just simply ignore and stuff them in the closet. We have to bring them out in the open and shine a light on them. The rewards that await us cannot happen without allowing ourselves to experience the darkness our stories hold. Only then can we reach the light at the end of the tunnel. Our perception of our reality is what needs to be let go of. The stories we […]

Man’s search for wonderment

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”  – Plato Plato wasn’t just talking about each of us having different perspectives. He was referencing our ability to see the inner beauty of the world around us. He was imploring us to activate our senses and fill our soul with wonderment. A few years ago, I had an experience that changed my life. Prior to it, I thought I lived by Plato’s guidance. I thought I knew beauty and beauty knew me. I was wrong. I was too self absorbed to understand the unlimited possibilities that come with wonderment. Occasionally, I […]