Communication

Learning spaces trigger growth

“A remarkable aspect of your mental life is that you are rarely stumped.” – Daniel Kahneman

Ever try to get someone to do something that’s not their idea?

Try as you might, it’s hard to convince them.  We present our case and share our beliefs/values. They still do it their way.

We may not be able to immediately persuade them to do something. We can create the learning space for them to decide.

Learning spaces are the foundation for all successful growth and collaboration. 

Successful collaborative environments are safe non-judgmental spaces. Where people are in charge of their own learning; encouraged to explore their own thoughts and [...]

Avoiding Soapbox Conversations

We meet. We converse. We enjoyed each others company. We part ways. We leave the conversation wondering what we are supposed to do next. Why was that interaction important to me? Whether you have thought about it or not, you better start paying attention to the conversational reactions you are having. Internal conversations are distracting your attention and focus. They are preventing you from deepening your connection with the other person. You are withholding the greatest gift you can give, your full conscious attention. Your future success depends on changing this behavior. I know what you are thinking…another post telling me what to […]

3 Types of Promises We Make

When you boil it down to its essence, all communication is about coordinating action with people. We fail when we are not clear with our language and intent. What is obvious to me may not be obvious to you. Relationships trust is established based on our ability to communicate in unison with each other. Healthy relationships are based on promise making, promise keeping, and promise managing. Promises are the foundation for our public identity, our effectiveness, and our well-being. We may not call them commitments, but promises are agreements and decisions about who is going to do what, when, and how. […]

Rationalize all you want, we don’t communicate

While the other person is speaking, we anxiously await our next interjection. We freely disrupt the ebb and flow with whatever random thought enters our conscious stream. We think we are having a one type of conversation and the other person feels they are having another conversation. We are not conversing with each other. The only conversation we are having is one with ourselves. In short, people suck at communication. They don’t care what you have to say and they don’t care what I have to say. People only care what they have to say. We talk at each other, […]

Avoiding conversations locks the door to possibilities

What conversation are you avoiding at all cost? No it’s not that one. Come on…you can dig a little deeper. You know the one I am talking about. You occasionally think about it, chew on it, and quickly let it go. Only it never goes away. The thought of actually having the conversation is enough to make you want to crawl back under the covers and curl up in a ball. At this rate, you will never have this important conversation. What are you afraid of?  We learn a lot of ways, but nothing accelerates our learning faster than allowing […]