Willingness vs Ability

Ever notice that everything comes down to a willingness to take action.

I can’t help but notice most people have lots of abilities to do things. They have tremendous knowledge and skills. Unfortunately, they lack the willingness to act.

They have a bias towards inaction. They are full of excuses for why they can’t do something. They lack motivation and a want to be a player in their own life.

Look around you, what do you see?

I bet you see two types of people. Those who do and those who don’t. Those [...]

Habit Detox

Humans are creatures of habit. We like routine behavior. We are safe and secure operating in our self-made habitats. We cling to existing structures like our lives depend on it. Sadly, they really don’t.

Telling ourselves anything different is a self-protection excuse strategy to help ourselves feel better. Temporary relief just masks our inner burning want to stop playing it safe and step into the life that is waiting for us.

What’s stopping you?

We want to be doing things we are not doing. We want to stop playing it small. We want to break free of our [...]

No Joy without Responsibility

Sure the current state of affairs is fine. You have everything you need. Life is good. Of course there more, right?

Tomorrow does not happen without the seed of today.

All the hopes, dreams, and grand visions we have for the future will not manifest themselves without some effort today. We either drive our growth or it drives us. It’s gonna happen whether or not we start it.

The grass may not be greener on the other side, but it will continue to grow.  All our hard work of the past can quickly vanish. Layoffs happen everyday. [...]

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Get naked and run free

Whatever you want requires you to get naked and run free in the wild.

Space is generative. Exploring an unfamiliar space is messy and uncomfortable. It is also where we find those game changing nuggets of wisdom. Familiar space keeps us stuck inside the safe stable confines of our mind living in a world of static repetitive behavior. Everything is may seem great, but it is far from it.

Running Free in the WildPretending to run free in the wilderness is a wonderful delusional reality world. A storybook fairy tale we tell [...]

By |November 19th, 2013|Action|5,009 Comments|

Paradoxical relationship between breakdowns and breakthroughs

Breakdowns and breakthroughs come with layers of complexity. Climbing and falling are part of a natural cycle of growth and retraction. We can’t have one without the other. It’s a paradox.

To understand and conquer this paradox, we must find our natural operational speed and move in-sync with it. Any other speed will be counter productive to achieving what we want.

Natural Operational SpeedPay attention to the posted speed limit.

Too much activity leaves us flying around distracted and unfocused. Caught up in the whirlwind of chaos, we sprint past all the potential [...]

By |November 1st, 2013|Action|5,402 Comments|

Questions or Answers: Which is more important?

Which method do you prefer? To follow a road map with GPS or taking a drive without a destination in mind?

Our answer determines our preference for certainty or exploration. We are either in love with our illusion of control or we can take life as it comes.

Answers come from the world of knowing and certainty. Questions explore the unknown with no attachment to outcomes.

Questions and AnswersQuestions give meaning and direction to our actions. 

Before we take action, we often begin with a question. Where shall I go today? We start to problem [...]

Overcoming motivational withdrawal

You are not only responsible for what you’re doing, but also for what you’re not doing – Lao Tzu

It’s not your fault or maybe it is.  You are suffering from motivational withdrawal. You have withdrawn from fully engaging in the life you have.

Go ahead, I’ll wait for your rebuttal. Take all the time you need.  Send me an e-mail, tell me why I am wrong and full of it.

I’m sure you will make some good points and defend yourself.  I know I would. Here’s the thing, I’m still calling bullshit.

I’ve told myself the same story many [...]

Learning spaces trigger growth

“A remarkable aspect of your mental life is that you are rarely stumped.” – Daniel Kahneman

Ever try to get someone to do something that’s not their idea?

Try as you might, it’s hard to convince them.  We present our case and share our beliefs/values. They still do it their way.

We may not be able to immediately persuade them to do something. We can create the learning space for them to decide.

Learning spaces are the foundation for all successful growth and collaboration. 

Successful collaborative environments are safe non-judgmental spaces. Where people are in charge of their own learning; encouraged to explore their own thoughts and [...]

Take 5 – Reflective Mental Break – Open Water

Take 5 photo exercises are fun reflective mental breaks designed to expand our observation, curiosity, and, creative awareness.

Ready for some fun?

Answer these questions as quickly as you can. Do not over think your response. Just capture your first thoughts that come to mind.

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1) What memories does this photo conjure up?



2) Describe what you smell? hear? feel in your body?



3) Where is that boat going to take you?



Please take a minute and share your observations about your experience.

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Find your guardian power and ride it past your fears

Where there is power, there is resistance. ― Michel Foucault

When your resistance shows up, you are winning. It’s time to remove your suit of armor, be brave, and push harder than you ever have before.

When was the last time you were brave?

Being brave is about taking small meaningful freeing actions. You wont magically wake up one day and be brave. You have to work at it.

There are thousands of distractions and obstacles keeping us from our dreams. Don’t give up. Stay focused. Keep going.

Be Brave. It takes guts to ignore the distractions and keep doing what [...]